• Yale Bowman

On Anger, Sadness, and Difficulty with Others



"If a man is crossing a river And an empty boat collides with his own skiff, Even though he be a bad-tempered man He will not become very angry. But if he sees a man in the boat, He will shout at him to steer clear. If the shout is not heard, he will shout again, And yet again, and begin cursing. And all because there is somebody in the boat. Yet if the boat were empty. He would not be shouting, and not angry. If you can empty your own boat Crossing the river of the world, No one will oppose you, No one will seek to harm you." - Excerpt from Chuang Tzu Many people drive "empty boats", acting out of their own confusion and anger, or negative emotions, but too often it causes us to react with the same kind of anger and confusion which their actions were derived from. Many people are not intentionally crashing into us, even when their actions are intentional. Their boats are empty, and personal trauma or difficulty, broken patterns have taken the wheel. The stupid or insensitive actions of others may even be inexcusable, but can usually be easily understood, and they don't have to continually control us or cause us to lose our center. I have a saying, "don't let people surprise you", Because if we look deeply, even when continually disagreeing or in difficulty with others, it is clear what drives their actions under the surface, and when we are at no fault that underlying thing is not truly us. When we are at fault, it becomes time to apologize, and then regain a better and more consistent control over our own vessel. #chuangtzu #Tao #zen #innerpeace #peace #ship #vessel #boat #emptyboat #modernzen #quoteoftheday #anger #sadness #emotion #emotions #life #love #philosophy #meditation #mindful #dead #stupid #stupidity #mind #meme #instagood #share #relevantreadings 


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