The theme of "ego" keeps popping up today. So what is ego? How does it relate to a spiritual path?
What is the ego? Truly? It is survival. It is self sustainability. The ego is what keeps us aware of our needs, it draws awareness. It is not rightfully the ruler, it is rightfully the revealer. For a healer or an empath, for a highly sensitive person, the ego can be a difficult struggle.
The truth is, we as human beings often do not care for ourselves as we should. We do not live healthy lifestyles or keep healthy mindsets, and we live for temporary satiety, not for deep nourishment of the body/mind/soul, not for sustainability. We do not make ourselves a priority in the ways which we should, we do not set proper boundaries with ourselves and others. We do not always maintain healthy dynamics and environments, we do not always use new and creative solutions to solve old problems. The ego begs us to do these things. It will benefit us, and it will in turn benefit others.
If you look at any happy or accomplished person, whether deeply spiritual or otherwise, they all make themselves a priority. Compassionate spiritual figures have typically made themselves a priority as much as they make the world and "other selves" a priority.
They nurture themselves and the world around them. They take time for themsleves as they do for others, they replenish what they give. They can live in service, but not as a slave. A slave has no time for themselves, but one in service knows they are of no service to anyone unless they maintains themselves, and a sense of self. And as they do this, give service to both the self and other selves, the ego nearly disappears. There is no need to survive, they are fully living and embracing the flow. A balance is achieved.
We can reach this balance, and we can satiate the deep fears for our own survival, of death, of a life unlived. We can satiate the ego. Not through denial, but through the honoring of its wishes. Not the superficial and petty wishes that manifest from its denial, but through honoring its deep need for nourishment and healthy acknowledgment of the self.
If we nourish ourselves: our minds, bodies, and our souls; our egos too will lose their grip.
We will not need to demand survival, respect, love, acknowledgment, regard, and care. We acknowledge ourselves, respect ourselves, nourish and care for ourselves in all these ways. Then, only then, can others contribute to our peace. Others cannot always do this FOR us, we must set the standard!
We do not need to focus on survival when we live with our deepest physical, spiritual, and emotional needs met. Our self care becomes a priority, as our care for others once did. The ego reminds us, "You are important, care for yourself!"
We can develop a routine of self care that will match the output of the care and attention we provide to our other-selves, other human be-ings. We are then not taking from ourselves more than we replenish.
The moment we lose this balance, the ego will return. Demanding healthy food, rest, respect, personal space, structure, understanding, boundaries, all of those things which we tend to deny ourselves.
If your ego is flaring, ask yourself, "What do I need?" The ego tantrum will want to place blame on other selves for taking this balance away, but it our responsibility to maintain it.
If our lives are not working, we must ask ourselves why. It is our job to create the new patterns, new structure, and provide our own sense of self love and understanding, our own nourishment.
If what we are doing is not working, if it is angering or saddening us, if it is depleting us, we must change it. We are the only ones who can change it. It may take time. It may not happen overnight. It may require trial and error, but we will get there.
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